“I don’t think you’re leaving. I think you’re running. And what I can’t figure out is, are you running towards something you want? Or are you running away from something you’re afraid to want?”
The real test of love is when a person—including you—can know your weaknesses, your stupidities and your smallnesses, and still love you.
The Ethical Slut
Everyone needs to hear someone say, “Nobody else will do. It has to be you,” sometime in their lives, even if it only happens once. Just once is enough. As long as you can feel sure those words were sincere, you can live through anything, no matter how painful.
There is always one person who you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it always happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of those lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable… The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really, want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.
Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that god-damn mountain.
Kami Garcia, Beautiful Creatures