I should stop viewing others’ problems as a third-person because most opinions are just judgements. I don’t feel, experience, anticipate them problems because I’m not in their shoes. So a third-person advices based on judgements are baseless. I think.
Kinda hit me when a girlfriend told me, "If I’m in her shoes, I’d do the same."
I never imagined to be in this situation. I never even expect this to happen. Come on, it’s somewhat against my principles to do something like this.
Like being the other woman.
The problem is, fortunately, I AM NOT THE OTHER WOMAN. Well, unlike others I know.
From the start this thing happened, I never felt guilty because I know, we both know that we didn’t do anything that is wrong because the rules never specify that what we did was against anything. So I can’t accept the fact that my friends think that this whole thing is an affair.
If it is, why am I not feeling like shit at all? I should be. My parents got divorced cos of that!
Also I realized that I shouldn’t be talking too much about what I feel about a situation if a friend decides to rant. Because I feel that my opinions are baseless. How do I know of a solution? How do I know of how they should react? Because it’s common sense that people should behave a certain way & that’s how they should solve a problem? I don’t even know exactly how they feel about what’s going through.. Likewise, they have no idea how I feel about things I’M GOING THROUGH.
- I don’t wanna clarify anything anymore of all the things I did & decided upon of how I wanna run my life because at the end of the day, it’s my fucking life. I’ll rant, and you’ll listen unless I ask you for your judgments (opinions are just so overrated right now). So other than that, I’m just gonna shut my trap about who I meet, who I shag, who I fall in love with. - I’ll be the attentive listener & friend that I’ve always have been. But I’ll. Just. Listen. At the end of the day, I believe, I’m not in any position to say anything because I’m a human being, just like you. A person who makes mistakes, still figuring out everyday & learn the best from everything. Seriously, after thinking of all the things I said to all my friends, all I can say to myself… "NAT, KAU MACAM PAHAM SIAL."
- In any case, if anything happened between us, just so you HAVE TO KNOW, even if you BELIEVE that your own measures are just up to the entire universe’s expectations… I have nothing to do with him ending his relationship with that insane mad woman. NOTHING. (I’ll spell it out to you if you need some lessons.) Maybe insane & mad are already REASON enough to leave a relationship, no?
I feel dumb writing this entry already. I’m gonna stop & to all my girlfriends, I’m not mad at you. I’m just being defensive towards my actions. I believe I have every right to be this way. I can be in denial for all I care, but aren’t you as well?
I can’t change the way you feel about things, so therefore…
- Attentive. Listener. In no position to say anything at all because a third-person view are just judgments unless being asked to judge a situation.
“Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing. Don’t be intimidated to say it like it is. Stop apologizing all the time. Learn to say no, so your yes has some oomph. Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down. Stop giving your power away. Be more concerned with being interested than being interesting. Be old enough to appreciate your freedom, and young enough to enjoy it. Finally know who you are.”—Kristin Armstrong
“Once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”—Haruki Murakami